I watch a lot of bad TV. I roll my eyes at the cliches. Sometimes show writers cross a line for me – something too egregious for me to ignore. This isn’t a deal breaker moment, but it is troubling.
Dear TV writers,
Stop telling men that “no” means try harder.
I’m watching the “Ghost Whisperer,” admittedly not top quality TV. But also not terrible – it’s feel good TV with ghosts and gorgeous clothes.
The show started to set up a relationship between two of the secondary characters. The best friends of the main characters develop a budding romance. The night if their first date, he stands her up. She is understandably angry. He apologizes. She says thanks, but no thanks for another date. She is clear and direct. The subplot of various following episodes each contain his attempts to “win her back” – stalking her (calling it “not creepy following you” doesn’t make it not stalking). He buys her gifts. In the current episode, he sets up a cafe table and chairs in front of her place of employment (since she declined his coffee date). He sits in front of her place of work – in the real world this could cause her to lose her job – in TV world, she is told “he’ll sit out there all day” grin, wink, nudge nudge…
So character who clearly said “no” just give in – even your “friends” think you should.
*update* so the creepy storyline culminates with the widow’s dead husband seeming to torment the rejected-suitor. Aside for the show clearly trying to generate sympathy for him, I was onboard. I have no sympathy for him. She said no, and he is stalking her – ghost torment, ok in my book. Alas, it turns out dead husband is actually trying to get rejected guy and his wife together. Ugh.
Maybe the show writers intended their choice of “Every Breath You Take” to be ironic rather than romantic.
Epic writing fail.
TV writers, maybe you could rethink promoting stalking and stop promoting a lack of consent as an “obstacle”